The Divorce Process - Learn How It Works
“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first‚ the lesson afterward” — Vernon Law
We work to educate our clients on not only how Family Court works‚ how to prepare and what to expect‚ but all the issues you need to consider and plan for such as housing and finances‚ employment and counseling‚ for example‚ and then work hands–on with you to help and then support you both through your Divorce and beyond.
“Unfortunately‚ I was trapped in a terribly dysfunctional relationship‚ and at times found myself in some very scary situations. There are no words to describe how grateful I am for the relationship we have developed at this very emotional time in my life. I would like to thank you Lori‚ for your continuous support.” — Lisa K.
Together we’ll discuss and explore the unique issues you face and offer experienced‚ common sense advice to help you create workable solutions to these very real problems‚ giving you a divorce strategy to help you move forward through this difficult time.
We believe in and take a very proactive approach which helps eliminate a great deal of the anxiety‚ enabling you to make sensible short and long term decisions. Which is why we believe…
There’s More To Divorce Than Just Hiring An Attorney
We all know Divorced people who wound up angry‚ broke and disgusted from the “Divorce Process”‚ and you’re worried the same thing will happen to you. You should worry– if you’re going to approach it like they did. So don’t do what they did!
No matter how many Divorced people you know we’ll bet this happened at least 50-75% of the time: One spouse interviews an Attorney‚ a person they’ve never met before‚ for 45 minutes and briefly discusses the most painful and scary issues facing them‚ they pay the Attorney's retainer, then leave the Law Office a nervous wreck to go home and wait for the Divorce papers to land where they need to and for the fighting to start. That’s just the way it’s done‚ right?
But a closer look will show that’s not where many of their worst Divorce problems really started.
Their problems really began much earlier when resentment and unhappiness grew into a decision to Divorce by one spouse who made little if any tangible‚ realistic planning and preparation for the emotional‚ financial and lifestyle changes that come during a Divorce and especially afterwards experienced by either party.
“Divorce turns ones’ life upside down‚ no matter which side of the table you’re on. Not only was Lori understanding and sympathetic to my situation‚ but she assisted me in finding legal counsel‚ a therapist‚ and financial institutions to help me during difficult times. Without DRCRI this would have been much more painful.” — Manny S.
No one is saying you are not justified in seeking a Divorce‚ but know before you file that no matter which side you’re on it’s not your Attorneys’ job to manage your life on less money because you’ve got to pay Child Support or Alimony for a period of time‚ or help you cope with the reality that you now are a single parent facing long days working and shuttling the kids to daycare and school because your ex has moved out. They can and do offer comfort and support but they aren’t the same as a trained Therapist when you’re emotionally traumatized and bitter because your ex was unfaithful.
Their job is to facilitate the Petition for Divorce‚ represent‚ negotiate and advocate for you in Family Court‚ get the best possible Divorce settlement and protect yours and your children’s rights under the Law. But people just assume things‚ often times based on second hand information. So what Attorneys spend a lot of time doing is managing fearful‚ unrealistic expectations and putting out fires with their own clients‚ never mind the trouble from other side‚ and the Attorney/Client relationship suffers. And then there’s the cost of it all.
“The failure to prepare on your part doesn’t automatically constitute an emergency on my part” — Anonymous Attorney
And it doesn’t matter which side you're on‚ we’ve all seen and heard the results. They curse their Attorney‚ they curse the Judge‚ they curse the Family Court system and then try to take it out on their ex–spouse financially or even through their own children for years. The system is far from perfect‚ and we know this‚ we too have gone through Divorce.
Now‚ go to the next page and learn more about our Divorce Support and Recovery Process and how to get started.
Then‚ learn How Divorce Mediation works and see if it can help lower the stress and cost of your Divorce.
